Family Calendaring: One Key to a GREAT Year

Last week we held FRANCIS FAMILY FROLICS. What’s Family Frolics, you ask? It’s our annual family planning conference.

All successful businesses and organizations make an annual plan–and our families should, too! Remembering the past, calendaring for the future, and setting goals are all keys to a meaningful and productive year.

Our planning sessions (Family Frolics) are simple. They generally have three elements:

-Remember the past (record favorite happenings from the previous year),

-Establish a Vision (set goals for the new year), and

-Formulate a Plan (create a calendar).

Here are a few more practices we use for each of the 3 steps above:

REMEMBER THE PAST: We have a fun family discussion while we eat or drive, and make a list of all of our favorite happenings in the past year. I record at least one or two for each of us in our family binder. I also ask our married/away from home kids to send me their top 2 memories so I can record those as well.

ESTABLISH A VISION: At another sitting (a different meal, car ride, or family meeting) we each set 2 goals for the new year. Again, I type or write as the children talk. We also look back at family minutes from the previous year and see how they did on their former goals. Of course, we set smaller monthly goals as individuals, but these “big” yearly goals are the main focus of our family frolics discussion.

FORMULATE A PLAN: Calendaring is one of our favorite parts of family frolics. We spread a physical calendar (one sheet for each month) out over the kitchen table and use crayons, markers, etc. to color in all of the major family holidays/birthdays, etc. Then we pencil in dates we already know about, like school vacations, family trips, or Dad’s meetings. These calendars are then bound or stored for the year. We review and refine each monthly calendar at our monthly family council and post it on the wall, but this beginning of the year layout gives us a good visual blueprint for what lies ahead.

That’s it! Simple, right? Yes. Family Frolics is as easy (or as complex) as you make it. We generally spread out the 3 major tasks on 3 different days, so our youngsters won’t burn out on calendaring and discussions. Then, mingled amongst our planning, we PLAY!

This year we embarked on a cross-country adventure, a first! Now that we no longer have babies, we felt that all of our kids could survive on skis, and we were right!

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We had a blast enjoying the beautiful Utah mountains, and the adventure was a perfect memory during Francis Family Frolics.

Check out my Vlog for more tips on holding your own fun Family Frolics.

Christmas Change – The Miracle of Scrooge

Published in the Deseret News, December 26, 2018. Read it here.

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This year marks 175 years since the publication of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol.

During December one year we read the iconic story for our early-morning family scripture study. Don’t worry, we weren’t apostatizing. We continued to read from the Bible; but my husband also wanted to share Dickens’ touching tale with our children.

I loved hearing the familiar words as I made breakfast each day. The old English terms and phrases were delightful and filled with humor and meaning. In fact, as Dickens wished in his original preface, the tale haunted our house “pleasantly” during the month.

Although the story is familiar, it brought on new life that year. In addition to our daily reading, several of us also attended the theatre production. Lines from the book that had become dear to us were shared dramatically throughout the show.

Of course, Ebenezer Scrooge is the villain – and hero – of the story. The descriptions of Scrooge are comical but clear. “The cold within him froze his own features.” “He carried his own low temperature always about with him.” And, “even the heaviest rain, and snow, and hail, and sleet…often ‘came down’ handsomely, and Scrooge never did.” In other words, Scrooge is cold and hard. Continue reading

The Christmas Cookie Secret

Why spend effort and energy mixing and making and cutting and baking goodies during the holidays? My mom taught me a valuable lesson with her Christmas Cookie Secret! Memories–not money–build families! Merry Christmas!

And here are a few of our “favorite” Christmas cookie recipes! The ones my Mom used… Enjoy!

Papa’s Song: The Story Behind the Story

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A young girl, torn between childhood and adulthood, finds comfort in her father’s Christmas lullaby. This short sweet story includes the Christmas Lullaby sheet music by Cy Coleman and Peggy Lee. Papa’s Song is sure to become a Christmas classic for any heart longing to be home for the holidays.

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Our family Christmas tradition, “Papa’s Song,” started over 40 years ago. Since then it has been translated into 23 languages and shared around the globe. Hear the story behind the story from the original Papa, my Dad!

Mothers of the Mayflower

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One hundred two passengers. Twenty-four children. Nine cats. One cargo ship, ninety feet long. Sixty-four days on a stormy sea. A possible recipe for disaster—at least in this day and age.

If I had set sail with my children, I would have preferred a private room, catered meals, and disposable diapers. And I would have requested a cruise liner instead of a 1620’s trading vessel. Continue reading

Happy? Halloween

I love holidays. But I must admit that Halloween is a bit scary. Take it from a mother’s point of view: nine children = nine costumes. Crazy! How creative and artistic can one parent be? Not to mention the dreams of my over-zealous 4th grader. “Let’s all be Harry Potter figures this year!” she plans. “Daddy can be Dumbledore, you can be Professor McGonagall …” (I can’t even fathom adding two more people to the dress-up list.) However, there are a lot of possibilities with a big family.

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Motherhood Matters

IMG_0362Motherhood matters. The longer I live, the more I comprehend this truth: Motherhood Matters.

With all due respect, I’m convinced that raising children is the most significant, the most difficult, and the most fulfilling task in life. It is influence. It is power. It is life.

Motherhood matters in many ways, but one of the most poignant is the influence mothers have on the world. Forever and ever. Continue reading